Among the famous warlike Zulu tribe of South Africa is where we worked last summer. We encouraged making friends with these proud yet friendly people.

When you shake hands with a Zulu, it is a series of gestures. In some ways it reminded me of the soul shake from the 1970's. However, the impressive part of the ritual is what is done with the left hand. They will grasp their right forearm with their left hand while shaking. This is a sign of friendship that signifies that the person has no weapon. (I've found variations on this same handshake in other areas of Africa.)

Until a generation ago, the Zulu still carried short spears called an Assegia. Therefore, exposing both hands in greeting was a true sign of friendship and trust.

Another note on Zulu culture. Our Zulu friends humorously commented on how we Westerners used a fork and knife for eating. They only use a spoon (as well as their hands.)

Watching us wield our knife/fork to cut a piece of meat, one laughed, "Why are you using your weapons to eat with?"

One of the joys of cross-cultural travel is making new friends with diverse cultures and traditions. However, I'm always reminded that a quick smile, polite greeting, and firm handshake go well in any culture and language.

Curt Iles